Those are the basic instructions for, or rather the pattern of, a couple who engages in an on-again, off-again relationship. Also known as “relationship cycling,” the predictable, repetitive cycle of breaking up and getting back together again can be dysfunctional, unstable, hurtful and even toxic.

Do relationships go in cycles?

Cycles of intimacy — times of closeness and times of distance — are common and natural in a relationship. You may find that one of you needs more alone time than the other.

How do you break a relationship cycle?

THE BASICSRecognize dysfunctional, toxic, and harmful behavior. Understand why youre stuck in a cycle of unhealthy relationships. Heal underlying trauma. Learn and practice new relationship skills. Be willing to be alone rather than in a dysfunctional relationship. Treat yourself the way you want to be treated.More items •22 Oct 2020